I’ve been thinking a lot lately about pressure and almost the irony that the more pressure you place on yourself (or something you’re doing), the harder it becomes.

And while there are so many ways in which pressure shows up across our lives, one pattern I notice time and time again is the way many clients - and honestly, myself in the past - approach healing.

As a society we tend to have quite a narrow view on the relationship between time, money and value. This is something I’ve definitely had to work through for myself, and if I’m honest, it still pops up from time to time. The occasional thought will creep in when I try to relate the worth of something in terms of the amount of time or money invested.

And of course this is understandable. After all, we’re taught from such a young age to see the equation in simple terms: one hour of time spent equals one unit of return, one hour of work equals one unit of pay. But in reality, value doesn’t always live neatly inside the hours we clock.

As it is school holidays here in Australia, I thought I’d share a few insights from the perspective of Human Design for all the parents in the midst of navigating long days, a busy house and many spinning plates.

For children, school holidays bring a break from structure and routine and every child experiences this freedom differently. Some thrive with endless activities and stimulation, while others need more space, rest or gentle rhythm.

And for parents, school holidays can feel like a juggling act as you try to keep everyone happy, engaged and sane while also preserving a little peace for yourself.

This is where Human Design offers such a gift. It helps us see why children need different things and how to support their unique energy so that holidays feel less stressful and more joyful.

Let’s dive in…

While there are many paths I could go down when sharing about the Projector energy type, today I want to focus on one of their most underrated gifts which is efficiency.

So Projectors have this innate ability to hone in, see deeply and understand people, places and systems. They have this knack for reading energy, managing it wisely and guiding others to do the same. Projectors are very perceptive, insightful and they hold this incredible gift of seeing the potential, seeing where things can be improved and seeing how to make things more efficient. Projectors are very wise and this wisdom comes not from doing more, but in recognising what doesn’t need to be done and what can be done differently.

When you hear the word outsourcing you might think of business or work delegation, perhaps a company outsourcing certain tasks, services or operations, but today I’m talking about outsourcing on a more personal level.

Because I see outsourcing so often not only in the health, wellbeing and personal development space, but also in my work as a midwife and of course I have my own story with this also. A story of being caught in the cycle of looking for something or someone to have the answers, fix me, handle something for me or tell me what to do.

It’s that time of year again; the final stretch before the holidays. A time of year when it can feel like you’re on a countdown and you’re just hanging on until a break. A time of year that can feel like a sprint towards the finish line. A time of year that comes with endless to-do-lists and when there’s never enough time in the day. When there is an underlying feeling of needing to tie up loose ends, rush through everything, when you are hopping from one task to the next and where your mind is always ten steps ahead of what is right in front of you.

If you’re feeling stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts, it’s time to rewrite the story. Infertility does not define you, nor does it determine your worth. You are more than this struggle. The path to motherhood may not be as linear as you imagined, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible.

Consider what it would look like to approach this journey with a mindset of possibility rather than limitation. What would change if, instead of focusing on what’s not working, you began to open yourself up to what could work?